It takes some courage for people to admit that they don’t know what they are doing when it comes to parenting. Parenting is an amazingly profound arena for spiritual growth. For so many of us it is a place we feel most challenged. For others not as much. I don’t relate to those people.
If you feel like you don’t know how to be the parent you want to be
If you don’t know how to keep serenity when it comes to your children
If you want to feel more comfortable in your role as a parent
If you feel so often that you don’t have much to give at the end of the day
If you feel like no matter what you do you are messing up anyway
If you feel lonely, lost or like you have to fake it til they grow up…
You are in the right place.
Being a parent can be challenging, but single parenting takes it up a notch. My married friends have another person to lean on when it comes to household income, responsibilities, decisions regarding children, and needing time to step away – even if to do the grocery shopping. Those of us who are single don’t have that luxury.
Yet there is a way to make peaceful parenting a way of life – regardless of your marital status. Meditation for parents is crucial. How can you find the time? Well, take it from a mom who is single and busy, you can. You have to. It has to be a priority and you have to exercise the muscle of protecting the practice and your peace – or you can forget finding balance in life, peace in parenting or reprieve from the ceaseless barrage of mental chatter creating undo stress and suffering in your already fragile state.
I want to give you a gift right now…you can return to balance – you can experience more confidence, energy and peace in your parenting. You can reduce the affects stress has on you and your family. You can rest in what is – not just conceptualize that you should. You can teach your children about living authentically and mindfully from a relaxed, realistic state of alertness, by living that way yourself. You can dispel fear, anxiety and worry that keeps you up at night and unfocused during the day. You can fill that loneliness and doubt with aliveness, fulfillment, purpose and self-love. You can find the confidence, creativity and peace you need and deserve to be the parent you want to be. You can change your habitual mental habits, thereby changing your relationship to parenting, through meditation!
If I can do this, you can do this. If I can breathe into anger – mine or my child’s, you can. If I can stand still in chaos and let the creative flow take me through the challenges and changes each day brings, so can you. If I can know deep stillness, silence and absolute perfection in the midst of chaos – anyone, including you can too. If I can set aside a few times a day to close my eyes – so can you!
Interested in reducing stress, increasing confidence, beginning to feel like you are doing everything to the best of your ability to truly serve the little beings you brought into this world? Okay, then are you ready to release the need to be right, in control or even the need to know how things are supposed to unfold? Boy I sure hope so. You deserve it. And so do your kids. You have to be ready to let things be as they are, though. And you have to be ready and willing to ignore the voice in your head telling you all the harsh things it does about your parenting responsibilities and how you are doing with them.
Sounds like a lot, I know, but the truth is, your peace isn’t waiting in the future, it’s waiting for you to notice it right now – over the chaos outside or the chatter inside. It’s waiting for you to change your relationship to all the noise and start looking for the peace therein. It’s waiting for you to choose it over your suffering – over the voice in your head telling you that you screwed it up once again.
I swear it is. It’s my experience. There isn’t peace or chaos. There is always peace. You can not take my word for this – you have got to find this truth out for yourself. In your own meditation practice you will find this key unlocking all the good that was sitting there waiting for you. You’ve been sitting on a treasure trove of peace. You’ve been sitting on an eternal connection to your purpose, your peace and your ability to guide your children in the right and perfect way that only you can. It’s right there in you now. Not apart from you in some other moment – but right there, right now. It couldn’t be any other way.
Sit back. Cut yourself some slack – breath in deeply to this moment. Let go of all responsibility. Relax for a moment. You got somewhere better to be than right here? Maybe, just maybe, this is as simple as it gets. You’ll complicate it. Reducing stress, changing your habits and relating to the stressors and to your mind differently all requires great effort and a lot of time doesn’t it? Like Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.” Decide to at least be willing to see if peace is right here – and then notice where you decide something else is more important.
You got this. I’m right there with you.